This month Pastor Jeffrey and Jaecie Lam writes regarding Kingdom Family. I congratulate them on this insightful write-up. Both Jeffrey and Jaecie are our home grown servants of God. Born-again in the house, raised up as leaders in the house and plant our Cheras English church within our New Life Household. They are our son and daughter indeed! I remember their early days of conversion and courtship well, even today.
I have seen them grow through stages of their lives as a couple. Some stages were very difficult. There were moments of great loss and grief, and moments of great transformation in their lives be they emotional strengthening, mental maturing or financial tenacity. Most of all, they grew spiritually through their thick and thin. They have weathered through much and are still on top, serving the Lord faithfully. Now you know why we are proud of them.
I believe they are into a new season of God’s grace and favour. So will be their church in Cheras. The fruit of their ministry is in their people. The quality of the members in their maturity and willingness to shoulder ministry in and out of the church have been visible. They are building kingdom families in a kingdom church.
God bless them and NLRC Cheras and we thank the Lord we are together in the greater NLRC FAMILY.
Pastor Jeremiah Yap
Kingdom Family – Our Perspective
By Pr. Jeffrey & Jaecie Lam
God’s Kingdom Living has its fundamental emphasis in relationships – between us & God the Father, between us & God the Son in Jesus, between one another in the faith and with relating the Great commission to the unsaved people of the earth.
Let us be reminded that we are living in the last days where the evil one seems to be winning – more broken homes, high rate of divorces even amongst believers, unashamed immorality, high suicides rates etc. The point is, it is not the time for ‘business as usual’ for Christians. We must choose where our priority is, for us & our family, and we must choose now. Do not wait for calamity to strike our loved ones before we run after Christ. The challenge Joshua threw to the believers then, is as much in our face even today:
“And if it seems evil to you to serve the Lord, choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the River, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you dwell. But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” (Joshua 24:15)
And yet amidst all the challenges, the blessings that come from Heaven’s Kingdom into our families remain overwhelming. Please refer Deuteronomy Chapter 28 for a list of these blessings, albeit a non-exhaustive list.
Our personal experiences of Kingdom Family Living
Role-modelling of fundamental Christian values were more impactful when our two children were still young, probably up to 12 years of age. Family altars, scripture memorising, bible-story telling & play-acting were well received & left deep impressions then. As they approached their teenage years, there probably were more misses than hits though.
As parents of two teenage children, when confrontation was met with rebellion, we just clung on to the grace of God and be in earnest united prayer and kept trying to help them grow in God. Sending them to Christian youth camps & workshops did help tremendously. Another helpful way was to surround them with godly Christian peers who will be their friends. And reading their Facebook postings helped us to get a glimpse of what was happening in their lives. We tried to be alert to their teachable moments, like conversations over mealtimes, whilst travelling together or watching their TV programmes with them.
On the other hand, our children can help us grow too. We’d seek their reflection of the Sunday service, from their perspective, so as to help correct any misconception, and to help ascertain what point is important to emphasise in our sermon application.
We need to ensure our home atmosphere is always hospitable & a safe-haven for all always – for our kids, their friends & the members of the church & especially the pre-believers. We are grateful that, by our example, many have felt loved & have become faithful in church. And lastly, with teenagers, be always prepared to forebear broken porcelains … with a wide smile!
1. What are two Christian values you are still struggling to practise? Be painfully honest if you would.
2. Share two disappointments & two successes you encountered in your quest to strengthen ties in your family.